Foreseeing my Future

        The journey of life is filled with misleading paths so it does help if you have a map at the very start. Our dreams and goals serve as the map that will lead us to the place where success lies. 

         Dreaming about your future is not an act of fantasizing but rather stating the things you what to have and planning how to attain them. I, myself, have a list of the things I long to have and to happen in my life in the future. 5 years from now, I picture myself as a successful engineer. I will have my own construction firm that will be known for the quality of work it will offer. I will be busy then supervising and planning for construction of different structures like bridges and skyscrapers. I will receive award as one of the outstanding engineers and be respected in the field of engineering. And when the right time comes, I will soon have my own family. I will be happily married and be blessed with wonderful children. My family will live in a house that I personally planned for them. My family will be prospered with success, good health and love. That is how I foresee my future.

         Dreaming is just the initial step, realizing them will be the true challenge. But with my determination and the motivation my dreams bring me, I am very confident that I can them all true.

Early Marriage- not a solution to early pregnancy

     Marriage has lost its true essence. It is no longer as sacred as it used to be. It now appears more like of an obligation rather than a vow.

     This is the case when the girl is already pregnant and her family hunts the guy down to marry her before he could have his chance to escape. Even if he is not willing or in denial if he is really the father of the child conceived by the girl, he is left with no choice but to be married with her. Things like these do happen especially in conservative countries like the Philippines where family’s honor is protected.

     Early marriage, in most cases, is the result of early pregnancy. Parents of the girl find it as a resort to ensure that the child of their daughter will have a father. However, they don’t seem to see that this would only result to another conflict.

     A mistake can never be corrected with another mistake; it will only make it worse. Early marriage as a cover up for the shame caused by early pregnancy is in my opinion an absurd idea. Marriage like this will do no good and only make the life of the girl and also of the guy stagnant. Since they are still young, they will find it hard to run a family. They will be occupied with financial problems and difficulty in adjusting with each other’s personality. One consequence also is that they will be stopped from schooling and later on find it hard to find a job that can sustain their needs. Most likely, early marriage will result to a miserable family.

     To make things not so complicated, conflicts brought about by early pregnancy should be settled through legal ways. The family of both the guy and the girl should have an agreement (through legal papers) regarding about the support the guy should endow to the girl as the father of the child and the custody of the child the moment the child is born. This way the guy and the girl no longer need to be married. It also assures girl that the guy can’t just abandoned his responsibility and that he is obliged to give financial support as they have agreed upon. In this way also the girl and the guy’s freedom to do the things they want to do as separate individuals will be restored.

    Marriage can be so very complicated especially when you are not prepared and matured enough for it .It is matrimony in basis of love and not on obligation, thus, early marriage because of early pregnancy will not ever work out.

Lesson learned from a Mistake

 

    What separate the gods from us (mere humans) are their perfection and our ability to make mistake. Human as we are, we often make mistakes than do things right. Remember how we fell and stumbled just to learn how to stand up and walk. Life is pretty much like that- we will not be the person who we are now if it were not because of the mistakes we have gone through and the lessons we learned from them.

     The biggest mistake I have done yet in my life was when I ran away from home. It happened when I was still in high school. My mother and I had a serious feud when she caught me drinking with my high school peers. Since one of my friends offered me to stay in his house, I decided not to go home. I stayed in my friend’s house for days until I realized that I could not live in my own and finally made my mind to go home. I was scolded of course but eventually all of it subdued. I have learned a lot from that experience. I learned that even how strict my parents are, in the end they will still be the parents I will come home to; the people who could still accept me despite of my mistakes and disobedience. I learned to value their words.

      Indeed our experience teaches lessons that are far more significant from those we can learn from books; lessons that will help us understand ourselves and will guide us in this bewildering world. from that experience alone, I have drained a lot of lesson.